Barry Humphries was a long time friend of this pedophile who was openly documenting his sexual experiences with these boys aged 9-12 years old. Hence it’s not possible to see Humphries as ignorant of the situation. Unable to empathise with the boys, their poverty, exploitation – my view is that certainly no pedophile exploiting them could empathise and no-one so clearly supporting that pedophilia could either. Whilst Donald Friend portrayed himself as benevolently being generous to these impoverished boys whilst having sex with them, it seems to me he treated them as unpaid child prostitutes. How that is benevolent is beyond me.

And these boys, caught between having somewhere to live, on the condition of sex, and living in the streets, were largely more driven to comply with the abuse than, say a Western child abused by a pedophile in the home of an acquaintance. Would the same pedophile putting them in this position have done this with children who didn’t have this catch 22, children who’d have flailed at groping hands, bitten the groper? If the child they lusted after did this, would the otherwise self righteous pedophile seeing themselves as ‘benevolent’ accept this as clear statement of repulsion? What if that pedophile not only lusted after the child but believed they deeply emotionally loved the object of their lust, were ‘in love’ with the child they sought to abuse, even ‘love at first sight’, would the pedophile take overt rejection like an emotionally well adjusted adult? Can we expect that anyone capable of the emotional management of a well adjusted adult would wish to surround themselves with houseboys 9-12 with whom they traded accommodation for sex? Can we expect that someone doing something like this is not narcissistic?

Given narcissism is part of this uneven power relationships, would the aroused pedophile let them go, or overpower them, asserting their ‘rights’ over those who are physically weaker? So whilst Humphries chooses to paint Friend‘s pedophilia as ‘benevolent’, there’s a real question as to how pedophiles like Friend handle themselves with children who fail to comply or actively avert or reject what a narcissist deems ‘affections’. How do narcissists respond to having what they see as their ‘rights’ thwarted or denied? If a narcissist has played the benevolent martyr card in inflating themselves above those they abuse, surely they see them as their ‘lessers’ even though they may inflate themselves to the role of ‘mentor’ over those they abuse. And how does a narcissist, however disguised, respond to having their attentions rejected by what they see as their ‘lesser’. I don’t imagine they just tidy away their erection and take it well.

its a good question, but with his face on so many advertising products, connected to the most high profile in Australian TV, and touted as an Australian icon, most wouldn’t dare the backlash.